It has been quite a winter here. We had "Snow-mageddon," "Snow-mageddon II" and a huge ice storm. Our days were filled with dire weather alerts, scary traffic updates, school closings and eye-witness reports. Piled on top of the terrible economic conditions, horrific stories of wars and natural disasters, is it any wonder that many of us have been feeling burdened by the heavy weight of it all? Some days it just feels like the sky is falling.
What is interesting is that, if you pay close attention, what passes for news these days are actually either predictions of what might happen (especially where weather is concerned) or very selected aspects of what has already happened (usually the most negative and sensational ones, of course). The intent of news these days is not to inform us, but rather to encourage us to come back for more "news." We become "addicts" who are hungry for the latest awful development, which in turn, makes us feel even more anxious, more depressed, scared, angry, marginalized, ____________(add your negative mind state here).
If this is hitting home, I'll propose a little experiment for you. First, really notice how you feel - physically, mentally and emotionally. You might even write it down in a journal. Then, turn off your TV, radio, and Internet news sources for one week. Stop reading the newspaper and magazines, too. (Some of you have already panicked at just the thought of this - notice how that feels, too, and write it down) For one week, go on a news "diet." Each day, notice how you are feeling - again, you might want to write it down.
If you think about it, people got along just fine 100 years ago without weather and news reports. They paid attention to their little part of the world, and if they wanted to know what was going on, they chatted with their neighbors. There was time for conversation at meal times, for enjoying the sunset and the sound of the birds, among other things. The level of stress they experienced was lower and vastly different than ours.
If you are brave enough to try this experiment, I'd love to hear from you - how it went and what you learned. E-mail me at linda@awakeninghealth.net and let me know. I'll tell you what I learned, too.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Don't just do something, sit there!
I've been thinking a lot about attachment. I get so used to how things are that I find myself fighting change, even though I know everything is temporary.
Last year, I was doing work that I was good at and paid well. It wasn't anything I wanted to do permanently, but it was helping to pay the bills. Then suddenly, the work was over. I was angry and concerned how I would make ends meet. I was filled with questions and no answers. I felt like I needed to do something.
What I needed to do was nothing. Eventually, I relaxed into what was already here. I found acceptance and started to believe I was where I was for a reason. I spent time just paying attention - to how I felt and to what was going on around me in each moment.
What I found was that I had been given a wonderful gift. Enough space had been created in my life for me to consider what I really wanted to do, who I really wanted to be. There were no more excuses that there was no time or energy to pursue my dream.
And that is just what I am doing now. I am grateful for the path that has brought me to this moment. I remember what one of my teachers says, "Don't just do something, sit there!"
Last year, I was doing work that I was good at and paid well. It wasn't anything I wanted to do permanently, but it was helping to pay the bills. Then suddenly, the work was over. I was angry and concerned how I would make ends meet. I was filled with questions and no answers. I felt like I needed to do something.
What I needed to do was nothing. Eventually, I relaxed into what was already here. I found acceptance and started to believe I was where I was for a reason. I spent time just paying attention - to how I felt and to what was going on around me in each moment.
What I found was that I had been given a wonderful gift. Enough space had been created in my life for me to consider what I really wanted to do, who I really wanted to be. There were no more excuses that there was no time or energy to pursue my dream.
And that is just what I am doing now. I am grateful for the path that has brought me to this moment. I remember what one of my teachers says, "Don't just do something, sit there!"
Monday, December 13, 2010
"Just breathe, Mom"
The winter holidays can be a pretty stressful time. We see family and friends in greater numbers and frequency. Our normal routines are disrupted as we try to fit in as many holiday activities as we can. Many of us feel a sense of time urgency as we struggle to get it all "done" before some important date or event.
Often, the result is that we become overextended, under-rested and emotionally frazzled. Yet each of us has a built in stress reduction technology that is available 24/7/365. It requires no batteries, plugs or special adapters. Best of all, it is free and easy to use. It is our breath.
When I pay attention, I see that reminders about the importance of breathing abound. One of my professors in the counseling program at Oakland University told our class that one of the best things we could ever do is to teach our clients how to breathe. My yoga and meditation teachers are always offering new ways to make direct contact with the breath, and I pass these reminders along to my students. A while back I was sharing a frustration with my adult daughter and she looked at me and said, "Just breathe, Mom." She is so wise.
The way we breathe can alter our physiology and improve our mood. A few moments of slow and deep breathing can stimulate our parasympathetic nervous system and calm us down. It can short circuit a "fight or flight" stress reaction and halt the release of stress hormones into our bodies. It can decrease our serum cholesterol and lower our blood pressure, among other things. And, as this article from NPR describes, your calming breath can even change the expression of genes, altering the activity of the cells in your brain.
Contact me if you'd like to know more about how to use your breath to improve your health. The Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction classes that I offer are a great place to learn to harness the power of your own breath.
In the meanwhile, if the stress of the holidays starts to diminish the quality of your life, just take my daughter's advice and "Just breathe."
Often, the result is that we become overextended, under-rested and emotionally frazzled. Yet each of us has a built in stress reduction technology that is available 24/7/365. It requires no batteries, plugs or special adapters. Best of all, it is free and easy to use. It is our breath.
When I pay attention, I see that reminders about the importance of breathing abound. One of my professors in the counseling program at Oakland University told our class that one of the best things we could ever do is to teach our clients how to breathe. My yoga and meditation teachers are always offering new ways to make direct contact with the breath, and I pass these reminders along to my students. A while back I was sharing a frustration with my adult daughter and she looked at me and said, "Just breathe, Mom." She is so wise.
The way we breathe can alter our physiology and improve our mood. A few moments of slow and deep breathing can stimulate our parasympathetic nervous system and calm us down. It can short circuit a "fight or flight" stress reaction and halt the release of stress hormones into our bodies. It can decrease our serum cholesterol and lower our blood pressure, among other things. And, as this article from NPR describes, your calming breath can even change the expression of genes, altering the activity of the cells in your brain.
Contact me if you'd like to know more about how to use your breath to improve your health. The Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction classes that I offer are a great place to learn to harness the power of your own breath.
In the meanwhile, if the stress of the holidays starts to diminish the quality of your life, just take my daughter's advice and "Just breathe."
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
The Woods and Wellness
Do you have a special spot where you feel more connected to yourself and the world around you, present in a timeless sort of way? For me, it is in the forest.
There are woods near both my house and the family summer cottage. I go there to commune with nature and recharge my inner resources. Whether it is walking with my dog and taking it in step by step or standing still to listen to the wind move through the branches and leaves, the forest has a profound and beneficial effect on how I experience life. Even a short stroll helps me to relax, listen deeply to my inner wisdom and rejoin the day with a different perspective.
In The Healing Power of Forests (ScienceDaily, July 26, 2010), we learn that forests, as well as other green spaces, can improve our immune system, reduce stress, mitigate anger and aggressiveness and increase our level of happiness.
When you consider the considerable personal and societal costs of illness, getting out in nature on a regular basis seems a deceptively simple alternative.
There are woods near both my house and the family summer cottage. I go there to commune with nature and recharge my inner resources. Whether it is walking with my dog and taking it in step by step or standing still to listen to the wind move through the branches and leaves, the forest has a profound and beneficial effect on how I experience life. Even a short stroll helps me to relax, listen deeply to my inner wisdom and rejoin the day with a different perspective.
In The Healing Power of Forests (ScienceDaily, July 26, 2010), we learn that forests, as well as other green spaces, can improve our immune system, reduce stress, mitigate anger and aggressiveness and increase our level of happiness.
When you consider the considerable personal and societal costs of illness, getting out in nature on a regular basis seems a deceptively simple alternative.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Want to feel good? Practice Yoga!
I remember when I first started to do yoga - I didn't really know what I was doing and I felt clumsy doing it. I was in a period of my life where I was desperately unhappy and I didn't know why.
Yet when I was done with the yoga class, I felt really good. My body felt like it had done something beneficial. But there was something else - I felt emotionally uplifted, lighter in mood, more open to life. I felt happy for quite a while afterwards. My yoga students have reported similar experiences to me over the years.
I have always wondered what it is about yoga that makes us feel this way. Now, an article from Science Daily, New Study Finds New Connection Between Yoga and Mood , explains how yoga works its magic upon us. A study done at the Boston University School of Medicine indicates that yoga increases the levels of GABA, a brain compound that when found in low levels is associated with depression and anxiety. With higher levels of GABA, we feel less depression and anxiety so we feel happier.
So if you are feeling out of sorts, you might want to give yoga a try. There are no pills to take, and it might be habit forming. Yoga might just be the right medicine for you.
Yet when I was done with the yoga class, I felt really good. My body felt like it had done something beneficial. But there was something else - I felt emotionally uplifted, lighter in mood, more open to life. I felt happy for quite a while afterwards. My yoga students have reported similar experiences to me over the years.
I have always wondered what it is about yoga that makes us feel this way. Now, an article from Science Daily, New Study Finds New Connection Between Yoga and Mood , explains how yoga works its magic upon us. A study done at the Boston University School of Medicine indicates that yoga increases the levels of GABA, a brain compound that when found in low levels is associated with depression and anxiety. With higher levels of GABA, we feel less depression and anxiety so we feel happier.
So if you are feeling out of sorts, you might want to give yoga a try. There are no pills to take, and it might be habit forming. Yoga might just be the right medicine for you.
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Who's Driving the Bus?
I don't know about you, but from time to time I realize that my life is driving me, that I am not in the driver's seat. When I start feeling overwhelmed with too many things to do and I don't feel like doing any of them, when I can't get "enough" done each day and feel tired most of the time, I know it is time to pay attention.
We were talking about this in the MBSR class the other night. One of the students said she was having a hard time practicing meditation because she didn't have any time. Her "To Do" list had her running all day long and when she got home from work, there was more to do. She looked and sounded exhausted. Practicing was just another thing she "had to do."
As we talked, I suggested she bring mindful awareness to the things on her list each day. Asking questions like: Did each of the tasks need to be done that day? Did it need to be done at all? According to who? What would happen if it wasn't done?
I then suggested that she consider the model used by Franklin Covey Co. as a basis for their planner systems:
Discover what is most important in your life, plan to do the things that support those values, and then let those values drive your actions.
I know from my own experience that if I'm not paying attention, my planner can get filled up with all the things that others want me to do, from work to friends and family. If I am not aware, I overschedule myself and underestimate how long things take to do. The result is that there is no time left for what I want to do, let alone time to relax and rejuvenate.
My advice to her was the advice I give myself. If you take the time to meditate each day, you will bring greater awareness to what is truly important to you and how you spend your time each day. You will make more conscious choices that can lead to greater balance between doing and non-doing, working and playing, between the obligations you accept and taking the time to follow your heart's desire.
So if you ask yourself each day, "Who's driving the bus?" and the answer isn't you, it's time to put yourself back in the driver's seat of your life.
We were talking about this in the MBSR class the other night. One of the students said she was having a hard time practicing meditation because she didn't have any time. Her "To Do" list had her running all day long and when she got home from work, there was more to do. She looked and sounded exhausted. Practicing was just another thing she "had to do."
As we talked, I suggested she bring mindful awareness to the things on her list each day. Asking questions like: Did each of the tasks need to be done that day? Did it need to be done at all? According to who? What would happen if it wasn't done?
I then suggested that she consider the model used by Franklin Covey Co. as a basis for their planner systems:
Discover what is most important in your life, plan to do the things that support those values, and then let those values drive your actions.
I know from my own experience that if I'm not paying attention, my planner can get filled up with all the things that others want me to do, from work to friends and family. If I am not aware, I overschedule myself and underestimate how long things take to do. The result is that there is no time left for what I want to do, let alone time to relax and rejuvenate.
My advice to her was the advice I give myself. If you take the time to meditate each day, you will bring greater awareness to what is truly important to you and how you spend your time each day. You will make more conscious choices that can lead to greater balance between doing and non-doing, working and playing, between the obligations you accept and taking the time to follow your heart's desire.
So if you ask yourself each day, "Who's driving the bus?" and the answer isn't you, it's time to put yourself back in the driver's seat of your life.
Monday, December 28, 2009
This month, I am featuring a letter written by one of my prior students. Written to a dear friend, she shares her impressions of the 8-week MBSR class and describes her experiences in a way that I never could. I hope you will enjoy her letter, and that it inspires you take the class. The next session begins Thursday, January 21 in Rochester.
Dear Sue-
How's everything with you? I am looking forward to seeing you again soon and want to tell you about something I have been doing that you may be interested in.
I have one week to go in my "Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction" class I'm taking in Rochester, and I keep thinking you would enjoy it as much and find it as beneficial as I have. It will be offered again in the New Year, and I thought maybe we could take it together. I would find it helpful to go through it again.
Here is the scoop. It's an 8-week class from 6:30 to about 8:30 pm one night a week. Our class has been on Mondays, but I don't know about the next one. We do mindfulness based practices including body scan meditation, seated meditation, walking meditation and yoga. One Saturday during those 8 weeks there is a "retreat" from 9 am to 3 pm that is silent (except for the instructors directions) and includes all of the forms of meditation. The retreat was amazing - I don't remember when I've felt so relaxed and at peace. The cost is $300 for those 8 weeks and the retreat, and it's well worth it.
I've found the classes and retreat relaxing, but it takes time to quiet the mind enough to meditate. The instructor is Linda Bowers, a former GM manager who decided to leave the hectic corporate life after she became acquainted with mindfulness. She was on the fast track at GM and left to raise her kids and change her life. She's studied at the University of Massachusetts Center for Mindfulness, founded by Jon Kabat-Zinn who has written many books and is the guru of mindfulness based stress reduction and pain relief. I was attracted to this class because I watched a television special many years ago called "Healing and the Mind" with Bill Moyers that featured Jon Kabat-Zinn. When I saw that Linda trained with him, I figured it would be pretty cool.
There's some interpersonal communication training, assertiveness training, and mind-body connection info related to health and diet, too. All in all, I've found it to be so good for me, expecially after the difficult summer I've had. It's kind of amazing that I was drawn to the class at just the right time.
Anyway, here's Linda's website : http://www.awakeninghealth.net/
Let me know if you are interested in attending the next 8-week session with me. We are alike in many ways, and I think you would "get" what's going on in these sessions. I would love to share it with you.
Love,
Sarah
Dear Sue-
How's everything with you? I am looking forward to seeing you again soon and want to tell you about something I have been doing that you may be interested in.
I have one week to go in my "Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction" class I'm taking in Rochester, and I keep thinking you would enjoy it as much and find it as beneficial as I have. It will be offered again in the New Year, and I thought maybe we could take it together. I would find it helpful to go through it again.
Here is the scoop. It's an 8-week class from 6:30 to about 8:30 pm one night a week. Our class has been on Mondays, but I don't know about the next one. We do mindfulness based practices including body scan meditation, seated meditation, walking meditation and yoga. One Saturday during those 8 weeks there is a "retreat" from 9 am to 3 pm that is silent (except for the instructors directions) and includes all of the forms of meditation. The retreat was amazing - I don't remember when I've felt so relaxed and at peace. The cost is $300 for those 8 weeks and the retreat, and it's well worth it.
I've found the classes and retreat relaxing, but it takes time to quiet the mind enough to meditate. The instructor is Linda Bowers, a former GM manager who decided to leave the hectic corporate life after she became acquainted with mindfulness. She was on the fast track at GM and left to raise her kids and change her life. She's studied at the University of Massachusetts Center for Mindfulness, founded by Jon Kabat-Zinn who has written many books and is the guru of mindfulness based stress reduction and pain relief. I was attracted to this class because I watched a television special many years ago called "Healing and the Mind" with Bill Moyers that featured Jon Kabat-Zinn. When I saw that Linda trained with him, I figured it would be pretty cool.
There's some interpersonal communication training, assertiveness training, and mind-body connection info related to health and diet, too. All in all, I've found it to be so good for me, expecially after the difficult summer I've had. It's kind of amazing that I was drawn to the class at just the right time.
Anyway, here's Linda's website : http://www.awakeninghealth.net/
Let me know if you are interested in attending the next 8-week session with me. We are alike in many ways, and I think you would "get" what's going on in these sessions. I would love to share it with you.
Love,
Sarah
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